Девочка не ходила в детский сад. Сидела с мамой, бабушкой или няней. Дома, в привычной обстановке. Теперь она пошла в школу. Что её ждёт? Отличия от сверстниц, которые прошли садик, будут. Но не всегда плохие. Рассказываем о плюсах, минусах и о том, как помочь дочери адаптироваться.

Плюсы: самостоятельность и привязанность

Such girls are often more attached to their family. They value home comfort, respect their parents. They may be more persevering: there are many distracting factors in kindergarten, but fewer at home. Often they have better-developed speech because they were spoken to one-on-one (not to 20 children). They may be more creative, as they were not "pushed" into kindergarten activities.

They do not catch mass infections (measles, colds) — their immune system may be stronger.

Минусы: социализация

The main drawback is the inability to communicate with other children. A girl may not know the rules: how to make friends, how to ask for a toy, how to yield. She may be afraid of other children (especially aggressive ones). She may be egocentric: she is used to having all the attention.

There may be difficulties in the group: she may not understand when to speak up, when to be silent. She may become an outcast or, conversely, command.

Адаптация в школе

The first half-year to a year will be difficult. A girl may cry in the morning, complain about animals, not want to go. This is normal. Parents need: to get acquainted with future classmates (on the playground). To play role-playing games "school", "store" where you need to communicate. Not to spare time on discussing school situations ("What would you do if..."). To praise for any attempts to make friends.

It is important: not to pressure, not to demand "quickly find friends".

Речь и знания

Often the speech of "home" children is better than that of kindergarten children. But there may be problems with discipline: not used to sitting through 40 minutes of class, getting up when asked. She may not know how to raise her hand. She may not know how to wait for a break to talk. Parents need: to accustom to a routine (wake-up, lessons, sleep). To teach to listen to the teacher, not to interrupt. To patiently explain the rules.

If a girl does not know letters — it's not scary, she will learn. Scary is if she cannot concentrate.

Самооценка

In kindergarten, children often criticize each other, tease. A home child does not know this. His self-esteem may be unjustifiably high. When encountering criticism at school (a failing grade, mockery), it may collapse. Parents need: to praise for efforts, not for results. To explain that mistakes are normal. "No one can do everything at once". Not to shield from criticism completely, but to discuss it.

It is important: if a girl is teased, to teach her to respond: "It doesn't matter to me", "That's your opinion".

Эмоциональный интеллект

In kindergarten, children learn to recognize others' emotions (laughter, crying, anger). A home child may not understand why a classmate is angry. He may be hurt without a reason. He may not know how to comfort a friend. Parents need: to discuss the feelings of characters from books, cartoons. To play "guess the emotion". To teach to name their own feelings: "I'm sad because...".

This will help to establish friendship.

Not going to kindergarten is not a sentence. Many successful people did not go. The main thing is parental support. Help your daughter master social skills, do not pressure, be patient. And she will grow up confident, communicative, happy.

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